Today, we welcome Adam from California to Profiles of Beskirted Men!
What is your name?
Adam
Where are you from?
California
Which types of gender non-conforming clothing do you enjoy wearing?
Skirts, Panties, Stockings and Garters, Pantyhose, Heels, Bras and Corsets and Leggings.
When did you start wearing gender non-conforming clothing?
29 years ago, at the start, it was a fetish and a way to manifest my fantasies, but now, later in life, I wear some form of feminine clothing daily, and it has become more of an expression of my unique personality.
How did you start wearing gender non-conforming clothing and why?
My first experience was when I was 14. I had a chance encounter with my best friend’s mom’s lingerie, and it has snowballed from there.
What is your motivation now for putting on gender non-conforming clothing?
I have been wearing for a while but recently my girlfriend encouraged me to paint my toe nails black and it has given me a new found drive to make my fashion style my own.
What do gender non-conforming clothes mean to you?
I struggled for many years with the concept of wearing feminine clothing and assuming it meant I was homosexual. It wasn’t until I met my girlfriend and I have with her support, came to embrace the fact that I can dress however I like, and it doesn’t have any correlation to my sexual orientation. Being a gender non-conformist allows me the freedom of personality that I suppressed for many years.
How often do you wear gender non-conforming clothing?
I wear panties every day. I have started to wear leggings and skirts on a more regular basis
Do you go out in public dressed in gender non-conforming clothes? If not, why not? If so, how often and where do you go? Are there any places you wouldn’t go?
My confidence is growing, and I am comfortable wearing leggings in public. This month was my first time wearing a skirts and pa those out shopping. It was an extremely nerve wracking yet rewarding experience.
Do you find it hard to go out in public in gender non-conforming clothes?
As I get older and wiser I find it is becoming easier to not care what others think. That has been the issue holding me back for many years.
What is your best and/or worst experience in gender non-conforming clothes?
I have yet to have a bad experience but am not fooling myself that it won’t happen. My best was when what at first looked to be a very stern African American security guard approached me while shopping and complimented me on my style and my tartan skirt. I was walking on air back to the car.
Do your family or friends know about how you dress?
My girlfriend knows, my friend and family don’t
Does your partner accept your clothing choices?
My partner is very supportive of my clothing choices. I wouldn’t be the person I am today with her support.
What is your favorite style?
I am going through a punk revival right now so pleated skater skirts and tartan are my go to. I am also a hiker so the kilt style works on both fronts.
Where do you shop for your clothes?
I have traditionally shopped both online and in person at department stores or outlets. While I like the anonymity of online purchases I love the social interactions when I’m purchasing at the store. I’ve always had great feedback on my choices from cashiers and on occasion some tips on sizing too.
Thank you for sharing, Adam!
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It’s always “interesting” to me that we go directly from “I’m wearing women’s clothing” to “I must be gay.” Cause somehow wearing clothing has anything to do with the complicated nature of someone’s sexual orientation. I’m not calling you out. No, I just find it so strange that this is such a commonly held notion.
I’ve been there too! I think it’s because we commonly associate people who don’t conform to gender norms with being homosexual. That also applies to women who are too “butch”, although interestingly enough, women considered to be “tomboys” are less associated with homosexuality than men who are even slightly “femme”. It’s really a double standard.
Nice to meet you Adam, cool that you found partner that supports you in something that shouldn’t make any trouble for anyone, but you know how the world is. Happily, “homosexual” note towards men wearing skirts is becoming less and less common, not even mentioning being “homosexual” as any kind of “wrong thing”.