Today’s poll asks about whether you’ve ever worn a skirt around people and been disappointed that no one said anything about it. The experience I’ve had with wearing skirts around others is that it’s rare that anyone says anything unless they regularly see you in one or know you well.
There are times though that I do wear one in public or around people who haven’t seen me in one before and I would enjoy talking about it, but they don’t comment on it. I could bring it up myself, but I feel like that is counterproductive to making men in skirts normal. After all, no one would talk about a man in jeans.
So have you been in such a situation? Do you bring it up anyway? Or would you rather no one talk about it at all?
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For me it’s difficult to answer because I see two different questions:
1. Have you ever worn a skirt around people and no one commented on it?
2. Have you been disappointed that no one commented on it?
My answers would be different:
1. yes
2. no really
Exactly!
You definitely have a good point there!
Most of the comments I get are compliments from women who like what I’m wearing. I sometimes get stupid questions but that’s mostly when I wear heels not always with skirts. I don’t go out of my way to solicit comments, so I am fairly quiet when I wear skirts and heels around.
That’s been my experience too. Although, I haven’t gotten any stupid questions while wearing heels other than from my wife who doesn’t understand the appeal of heels and is worried about how they might affect my health in the long-term.
You’re absolutely right, Greg (and JJ and Kimo). I really don’t expect – or seek – commentary on my clothing or other appearance features. It’s nice when a compliment occurs, of course, but it’a because it’s unexpected, unlike say, a concert encore, which is de rigeur, it seems. I think compliments are most likely when one is dressed a bit nicer than the crowd about, but not over-the-top out of place: and that can come whether skirted, pantsed, or whatever. My favorite tux has tails, for instance, and that always stands above just a bit and almost always gets a positive comment at a formal occasion. But a nice skirt and top in a sea of baggy shorts and tee shirts could certainly have the same effect.
I don’t generally either, but occasionally, I am disappointed about not getting a comment or having a conversation about it because I enjoy talking about it. That’s really all it comes down to for me.
Yes and no. As I always wear kilts, skirts or dresses, stockings, heels, etc. anytime, anywhere, I have to answer that 99,9% of all those people I encounter do not comment on my outfit. I am not disappointed. Why should I be? I also rarely comment on what others wear.
It’s true that people don’t generally comment on what others wear. Most of the time I’m fine with it as well and even appreciate the fact that people just accept it, but I do enjoy talking about it which is why I am disappointed sometimes. I enjoy talking about it so much that I decided to start this blog! 😉
Hm, interesting question. At first, I really hoped that no one is bothering me with questions about the skirt. After few months, I was expecting at least one comment at irregular pace to happen. Now, I’m probably back into the first mood, but now rather than the lack of confidence, it is more just a little to no expectation of anyone commenting on my outfit.
Same here. While you’re still building the confidence to wear skirts in public, you just want everyone to leave you alone. Ironically, it was talking to people about it that helped me build my confidence because it showed that most people who are willing to say something are rather positive or just simply curious without judgement.